Behold our best picks for couples' vibrators—just don't wake the neighbors when you try them.
Most people think of their vibrator as a super pleasurable substitute for when their partner isn't around, or if they're living the single life at the moment. But this and other sex toys can make magic in the bedroom when you're with a significant other too.
“These toys can make a couples' sex life more fun and exciting,” says sex educator Bianca Alba, MPH. For starters, demo-ing a toy gives your partner an idea of the strokes and touches you really dig. Also, a sex toy can give you the chance to try a new sensation or type of play, surprising you with how great it feels.
While you might be intrigued about bringing one between the sheets on a special occasion, you don’t need to save them for red-letter dates like Valentine’s Day or your anniversary. “Sex toys shouldn't be considered a novelty item,” says New York City-based certified sex educator Logan Levkoff, Ph.D. “There is something to be said for using an enhancement that ensures orgasm and pleasure for both parties” on a regular basis, she adds.
Choosing Your Vibrator
The options are vast when it comes to selecting a vibrator for you and your partner. According to Texas-based sexologist Goody Howard, MSW, MPH, it’s best to start with the kind of pleasure that they want from their sex toys: “Are they looking for external stimulation? Insertable pleasure? Do they want it to vibrate? Or be wearable? There are lots of pleasure options to consider.”
She adds, “External pleasure is best provided with [penis] rings and finger toys. I typically suggest a bullet as a great beginner's toy for all people; bullets are small, easy to use, and don't physically intrude on a couple's rhythm. They’re great for internal and external stimulation because they’re extremely versatile. Wearables offer awesome dual stimulation for maximum impact for all parties involved.”
Ready to play? Here, the experts we spoke to share their top recommendations for the best couples’ vibrators and toys two can enjoy together.
- Best Overall: Magic Wand Original
- Most Quiet: Lelo Nea 2
- Best for Foreplay: Frisky Finger Bang-Her Vibe
- Best for Multiple Areas: Jimmyjane Form 2 USB Massager
- Best Penis Ring: Je Joue Mio Penis Ring
- Most Discreet: Dame Products Fin Vibrator
- Best for Clitoral Suction: Je Joue Mimi Soft Clitoral Stimulator
- Best G-Spot Targeting: NJoy Pure Wand
- Best Budget: LifeStyles Amuse Bullet Massager
- Best 2-in-1: Loverbeby Vibrating Penis Ring
- Best Hands-Free: LoveHoney Venus Butterfly Hands-Free Vibrator
- Most Flexible: Dame Products Pom Vibrator
- Best Low-Intensity: Zumio S Precision Clitoral Stimulator
- Best for Beginners: Trojan Vibrations Vibrating Pulse Intimate Massager
1 Best Overall: Magic Wand Original
This is the toy every couple should own, says Alba, who notes that the classic device “offers some of the strongest vibrations of any vibrator on the market.” While it’s too large to maneuver in certain sex positions, “it is an excellent choice for women who cannot achieve a clitoral orgasm from less intense stimulation,” she says. (There’s a rechargeable, cord-free version if you don’t want to be tethered to an outlet—it’s just a bit pricier.)
Promising Review: “This is my partner's favorite wand-style vibrator, and we have tried several over the years. The attachments for the Magic Wand Vibrator make it an unbelievable personal stimulation device. Highly recommended.”
2 Most Quiet: Lelo Nea 2
Penis-in-vagina intercourse may lead to a climax for men, but a far lower percentage of women can orgasm through penetrative sex alone, says Alba. To get clitoral stimulation during sex, she recommends this waterproof, rechargeable toy from Lelo, which offers eight levels of vibration to best suit you and your partner’s preferences and fits comfortably in the palm of your hand. “It’s small, beautifully designed, and a great shape for nestling against the clitoris during intercourse,” she says.
Promising Review: “I fell in love with my Nea 2 as soon as I took it out of the package. It fits in the palm of my hand and is visually stunning and quite powerful. I was concerned that the vibrations would not be strong enough and the smooth surface would not provide the level of friction I need. The Nea 2 got the job done and then some. I first tried it by myself and was pleasantly surprised at the intensity of the vibrations coming from such a small device and I love the fact that it is wireless. My partner was impressed with how quiet it was and we really enjoyed exploring the multiple vibration settings. I would highly recommend this toy to any couple looking to spice things up between the sheets.”
3 Best for Foreplay: Frisky Finger Bang-Her Vibe
This wallet-friendly toy straps onto your finger—or your partner’s—to enhance your foreplay with gentle-yet-targeted humming vibration. The secure fit means there’s no chance of the toy slipping off or fumbling during a moment of passion, says Anne Hodder, ACS, a Los Angeles-based multi-certified sex educator. She likes it for the “super easy access to anywhere that could use some vibration stimulation.”
It’s also a favorite of Howard, who notes that it’s a beginner-friendly model for couples looking to experiment with sex toys. “[It] makes it easier to manage the toy and genitals at the same time,” she explains. “The bullet has a textured silicone sleeve with a finger ring on the back that allows lovers to touch each other as they normally would, with a little extra razzle-dazzle.”
Promising Review: “Nice little toy. Works great for us… It’s more of a teaser toy, but it works for the price. It’s perfect.
4 Best for Multiple Areas: Jimmyjane Form 2 USB Massager
Simple clitoral stimulators are an ideal starting place if you’re new to sex toys, says Sunny Rodgers, a Los Angeles-based clinical sexologist, certified sex coach, and ACS-certified sex educator. This versatile vibrator can be used on the clitoris (of course) but also on all sorts of other erogenous zones, says Rodgers. She describes the Form 2 device as compact and malleable. “The flexible ears can be used to pinch nipples, earlobes, the clitoris, or labia,” Rodgers explains. “It’s also petite and can easily be used to caress either partner anywhere on their bodies. Think: Toes, inner thighs… you get the picture.
Promising Review: “Got this toy for my girlfriend and me to experiment with. She loves it. It's perfect after those long days where you're both exhausted but still want to get intimate. She loves the dual head. Highly recommend.”
5 Best Penis Ring: Je Joue Mio Penis Ring
If sometimes sex is a bit too speedy—ending before you can climax—consider having your partner use a penis ring, which helps men last longer, says New York City-based sex educator Kait Scalisi, MPH. This one is her favorites “because it’s super stretchy and quiet and generally stays put.” The vibrations will help you orgasm faster too. She adds, “[That helps] close the time gap that happens with a lot of couples.”
Promising Review: “My boyfriend and I love, love, love this [penis] ring. While looking at them, both he and I felt overwhelmed. We wanted something simple that didn’t seem intimidating. He loves how it feels on his skin. I love the settings which are easy to use and I love the fact that it is rechargeable.”
6 Most Discreet: Dame Products Fin Vibrator
Small, non-phallic vibrators can be good options if your partner is nervous or a bit uncomfortable about sex toys, says Scalisi. The Fin doesn’t look like competition for a penis, basically. “Fin is a finger toy that turns your beau’s hands into a vibrator,” she says. “It enhances all sorts of sexy time, from steamy make-out sessions to intercourse.” This easy, one-button design has three vibration settings and can be worn in different ways to best suit you and your partner’s favorite positions.
Promising Review: “Love this toy so much. Ladies, if you're like me and have young kids, your time for sex with a partner is usually on a tight clock; at any minute the little tykes can come and interrupt. So even if your partner is the best in the world, anything that helps is good. This is amazing. Easy to use, powerful, USB rechargeable for goodness sakes. If you need a vibrator for whatever reason, buy this one.”
7 Best for Clitoral Suction: Je Joue Mimi Soft Clitoral Stimulator
Hodder describes this toy as “surround sound for your clitoris,” and doesn’t that sound... wonderful?! Don’t be fooled by the petite size of this pebble-shaped vibe: Hodder says it’s super rumbly and powerful, fitting easily between you and your partner during sex. “The tip has a soft bit of give to it, so the harder you press it into yourself (if you’re into that sensation), the more it sort of melds around your body.” This palm-sized vibrator also has five speed settings, six pulse patterns, and an ultra-soft silicone tip for optimal stimulation.
Promising Review: “After three years of hard usage, I can’t live without it. Used alone and with partners guaranteed I had multiple orgasms every time… I love it worth every penny.”
8 Best G-Spot Targeting: NJoy Pure Wand
Alba recommends this wand if you want to explore G-spot stimulation. “This toy offers two different sized ends that provide deep internal sensations and can help women find their G-spot. It can also be used for male prostate stimulation,” she adds. Its curved design does the work for you so you can get your partner to climax faster, regardless of the position you’ve chosen. It’s also great for solo play too.
Promising Review: “Wife enjoyed it. Will be a gamechanger. I suggest bringing your lady to orgasm through whatever method you want to normally use. Then, bring out the wand to take her to the upper room.”
9 Best Budget: LifeStyles Amuse Bullet Massager
"A vibrator you can put in your pocket or bag has lots of fun applications,” points out Rae McDaniel, a Chicago-based sex therapist for LifeStyles Condoms. (Maybe it's time to try that bathroom quickie you've fantasized about?) She recommends the brand’s own small and discreet massager, saying couples can use it to add a little something extra to a sexual experience. Plus, its curved shape, multiple vibration settings, and quiet motor make finding you and your partner’s G-spot easy, especially if you’re on the go.
10 Best 2-in-1: Loverbeby Vibrating Penis Ring
According to Howard, this multitasking penis ring is a must-have for its versatile design, which can also be used for clitoral stimulation thanks to its textured pad. “[This] works great for any couple that contains a penis,” she says. “The vibrating part can stimulate the clitoris during penetration or tickle the perineum and testicles if both partners have a penis. Not only does this toy offer stimulation for the receiving partner, but the wearer can also feel the vibration through the base of the penis, so everyone gets in on the fun.” It’s also got nine speed vibrations and is made from incredibly flexible silicone to ensure a comfortable and secure fit.
Promising Review: “My wife and I have used all kinds of toys, but this one is amazing. Most are not enjoyable for both of us at the same time or offer this much diversity. So small but so powerful and so many diff speeds to switch it up. While other rings have a bullet sitting sideways, this one hits all the right spots. Made our time much more fun.”
11 Best Hands-Free: LoveHoney Venus Butterfly Hands-Free Vibrator
For couples looking for convenience without sacrificing intensity, Howard recommends this butterfly vibrator from LoveHoney. “This is awesome for external vibration and can also be worn during insertive sex [positions like] doggy or vulva on top,” she shares. Taking a cue from vibrating panties with its targeted clitoral stimulation and strap-on design, this 10-function wearable model is built with a rigid body and a precision point for ultimate pleasure. It’s also got adjustable straps and can be worn under or over your underwear.
Promising Review: “Used this every night since it arrived and me and my partner love it. He likes having control of the button and switching between all the different modes and I really like how intense it all feels. The straps are a bit fiddly to work out at first, but I'm a pro at fastening this on now. Probably one of the best buys ever.”
12 Most Flexible: Dame Products Pom Vibrator
Recommended by Dr. Levkoff for its malleable construction, this handheld vibrator from Dame features a moveable head that flexes to where you want it, leaving no spot out of reach. Designed to deliver broad and targeted vibrations, the unisex vibrator is equipped with five speed intensities and four vibration rhythms to create a customizable experience for you and your partner. Its powerful-yet-quiet motor is USB rechargeable, and it’s made from incredibly soft silicone, which is free of phthalates and waterproof.
Promising Review: “Normally don’t leave reviews on personal products, but this one is well worth reviewing… Super soft and amazingly flexible. The perfect size and feel for all the right spots. Great variety of settings and speeds, with an awesome amount of power when wanted. The shape makes it the perfect fit with or without your partner. Well worth the money.”
13 Best Low-Intensity: Zumio S Precision Clitoral Stimulator
Perfect for taking things up a notch at a slow pace, this vibrator from Zumio uses a short, rounded tip that rotates in a small circular motion to mimic the sensation of fingering for a natural-feeling intensity without overstimulation. A top pick from Dr. Levkoff for its versatility and non-intimidating design, this vibrator, which offers a modern take on vibrator wands with its sleek exterior, has eight speed settings and an ergonomic handle that makes finding your partner’s pleasure points easier than ever.
Promising Review: “It's quiet and compact, but still has a lot of power. My wife and I were looking for something as strong as her Hitachi magic wand that didn't get in the way. This is the first device that has been able to replace it. She has actually decided she likes it better.”
14 Best for Beginners: Trojan Vibrations Vibrating Pulse Intimate Massager
If you—or your partner—are feeling a bit shy about introducing a toy, this small, vibrating wand from Trojan might be the perfect pick. “It’s easy to use, multi-setting, and doesn't feel like something intrusive,” Levkoff assures. In addition to its six vibration and pulse settings, this compact vibrator features a silicone tip that feels soft against your skin and delivers precise stimulation to take things to the next level.
Promising Review: “Good alone, even better with a partner. Seems pretty easy to clean off as well and the different options for speeds [and] patterns are nice.”
A vibrator this good is always bound to sell out. If the Trojan Vibrations Vibrating Pulse Intimate Massager is low in stock, you can score a similar device from the brand at Walmart that delivers the same customizable vibration at a lower price.