A lot of us get stuck in a why-won’t-it-work mode when we feel overwhelmed, but dwelling on negative thoughts holds you back from making new beginnings, according to Wiseman. Get them out of your system by writing down your thoughts and feelings every day. Then you can put the negative stuff aside and move on. “You’ll boost your self-esteem and happiness by gaining control of your situation,” Wiseman says—and this will pave the way for you to get excited about doing everything you have to do.
“It’s intimidating to shoot straight for major goals,” Wiseman says. So create sub-goals that will help get you to your ultimate target. If you’ve been wanting to figure out your finances, for instance, begin by picking up a good primer on the topic, then ask friends what they do or get suggestions for a financial planner. Just be sure your steps are concrete and move you toward your objective.
As you tackle each sub-goal, gloat a little about your amazing progress. “Worrying about what will happen if you don’t get there will only bog you down,” Wiseman says. Instead, jot down all the great changes you’ve made, and put the list by your dresser where you’ll see it every day—it’ll spur you to keep going.