Do it Faster: Get Over a Grudge
By Leslie Barrie
Updated April 10, 2013
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A friend ticked you off? Here’s how to move past it, suggests Philip H. Friedman, PhD, author of The Forgiveness Solution.
Forget being right
A friend ticked you off? Here’s how to move past it, suggests Philip H. Friedman, PhD, author of The Forgiveness Solution.
“In life, you get a choice between being right and being happy,” Friedman says. After a blowup, remind yourself what you really desire—happiness, peace, and fulfillment—to help you get over your frustration.
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Argue the other side
Expectations we put on others are often at the root of hurt feelings, what Friedman calls should-ing—“She should have RSVP’d sooner.” Accept that there’s more than one way for people to act, and it’ll be easier to move on.
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Decide what you want
Ask yourself what kind of relationship you want, and only reach out when you’re feeling positive and ready to patch things up.
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By Leslie Barrie