20 Ways to Fall In Love All Over Again
Reignite your spark
But after years of marriage or dating, a significant other can start to feel more like a roommate than a romantic partner. Maybe you've grown apart, you're busy with work and kids, or the spark's just not there anymore. For whatever reason you've found yourself falling out of love, here's how the experts suggest you find your way back in.
Be more touchy-feely
Sleep closer together
Walsh recommends forming an agreement with your partner to cut out phones and television at mealtimes and in the bedroom, or deciding together about specific times you will and will not use technology. "Otherwise, you won't give each other your full attention, and it's easy to become annoyed or feel disconnected."
Take a vacation
Say thank you
Solomon suggests keeping a gratitude journal, and writing down three things every day you're thankful forwhether it's related to your relationship or not. "It can foster a sense of wellbeing and openness that can improve your connection with your partner."
Locking lips can play an important role in the quality of a long-term relationship, according to a 2013 study from Oxford University. In fact, researchers found that frequent kissing was even more important to relationship satisfaction than frequent sex. "A 30-second kiss gives us a warm, fuzzy, safe bonding feeling from that cuddle hormone, oxytocin," says Bonnie Eaker Weil, relationship counselor and author of Make Up, Don't Break Up. "Partners can give this feeling to each other by practicing a hug and a kissa mini connectionin the morning before work and before bed at night."
Compliment each other
Cultivate your own interests
Observe your partner's passions
Create something together
Go on double dates
Stare into each other's eyes
Flirt with each other
Flirting can be different for every couple, but anything affectionate, sexually suggestive, or playful can fit the bill. And while it may feel awkward to send an inappropriate text to the person you've been married to for years, it can help add excitement to a romance that feels stalled, says Solomon. "They key is finding a way to do it so you both feel comfortable and you're having fun."
Work out together
Engage in pillow talk
For an even better relationship boost, spend a few extra minutes after sex chatting and snuggling. Couples who engaged in post-sex affection (such as cuddling and caressing) during a 2014 University of Toronto study were generally happier with their sex lives and relationships overall, even three months later. "The findings suggest that the period after sex is a critical time for promoting satisfaction in intimate bonds," the authors wrote.