Learn to be Assertive and Love it!

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Be your own advocate

In your defense, it is more of a challenge to state your needs these days. The still-shaky economy may make you hesitant to ask for that raise at work.

The payoff of having your own back, though, is enormous. "When you say what you want, you live a happier and more authentic life," says Caroline Adams Miller, author of Creating Your Best Life. Those who speak up do better at work, have more time, and have healthier relationships.

So how do you master this crucial skill? "The three keys," explains Miller, "are knowing what you want, believing you have a right to it, and finding the courage to express it."

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