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Go shopping

Spend a little "mad" money on yourself, recommends Leiblum, who is also the author of Getting the Sex You Want: A Woman's Guide to Becoming Pleased, Proud, and Passionate in Bed. "Take the time to discover what turns you on, from silky-smooth satin pajamas to a Victorian bustier," she says. If you're into it, women-friendly erotica can help get you in the mood. Vibrators are a solid choice, too, Leiblum says, because they allow you to explore your sexuality in private. They also help maintain the elasticity of the vaginal walls, which becomes important as women age.

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