The monthly meeting comes to order in the heart of Silicon Valley, a world center of leading-edge technology. Household names such as Google, Yahoo, Apple, YouTube, Netflix, and Hewlett-Packard dot this short stretch of coastal California between San Francisco and San Jose. In attendance this evening are software developers and computer scientists, some from these very companies.
- Losing track of priorities
- Arriving late to events and missing deadlines
- Having trouble initiating tasks and following through to completion
- Being chronically disorganized
- Managing finances poorly
- Losing their temper easily
- Overspending, smoking, video gaming, and other addictions
- Not being “present” in relationships
As you would expect, behaviors like these seldom won them kudos from bosses, coworkers, family members, or even grade-school teachers. As a result, some people have lost jobs, partnerships, houses, large fortunes, and self-worth. Or, at best, they believe (or have been told often enough) they have fallen far short of their potential. Some have been unsuccessfully treated for anxiety or depression for years without knowing that, in fact, untreated ADHD was making them anxious or depressed.
- "Didnt their parents teach them?"
- "Dont they realize why these issues are important?"
- "Do they just not care?"
- having difficulty focusing ones attention right now,
- on the most critical task, speaker, or activity, and
- once focus has been achieved, maintaining it instead of yielding to distraction.
Same meeting room, the following Tuesday, 8 p.m.
Be careful talking about good intentions to newcomers at this weeks gathering! Its the same room but a very different crowd.
When they finally hear other people voicing similar threads of befuddlement, the floodgates open. Lets listen in as the new folks introduce themselves:
"Communication problems" plague Donna and her husband. "When we started dating, we had great conversations. Now I cant speak a word before he changes the subject or zones out. I hate the way this makes me feel, like Im boring or not worth listening to. When I try breaking off the relationship, though, he becomes attentive again, only to backslide two weeks later. He finally told me last week that he has ADHD, but he insists it is an asset. Ive read some Web sites that advise us spouses to be more understanding, but thats not helping."
- "You mean our problems arent all my faultnot me being rigid, anal, controlling, demanding, or ‘no fun?"
- "You mean our problems arent all my partners faultnot bad temper, selfishness, or apathy?"
- "You mean the invisible enemy weve been battling not only has a name, it has a solution?"