5 Mistakes Pain Patients Make

It's not uncommon for chronic pain patients to report a difficult encounter with a doctor who was dismissive, short, or short on sympathy. In defense of the doctors, however, remember that the medical system often leaves them little time to properly listen. And patients are not always the best communicators. It's a bad combination that can lead to unnecessary pain.

"One of the things that patients cry out the most for is having someone actually listen to them and understand them," says Micke Brown, director of advocacy at the American Pain Foundation. "Pain is very individualized, and its treatment needs to be as well. There isn't a cookie-cutter approach."

Andrea Cooper, 52, a fibromyalgia patient and patient advocate in Phoenix, Md., agrees, but also notes that a patient's actions can sometimes make a doctor's job harder.

Five top pain patient no-no's

• Arriving unprepared: Cooper recommends writing down questions in order of priority, keeping a pain diary and having medication refill needs on hand.
• Failing to keep track of their long-term treatment: Patients should keep their own medical file at home with copies of lab reports and doctors' notes. These should be updated and reviewed regularly.
• Not being candid: Patients are sometimes afraid to disappoint a doctor if they have made little or no progress. They are embarrassed about certain symptoms or about their failure to take medication as directed. They need to be forthcoming.
• Not being an active participant: Patients should think of themselves as being a part of the solution. They'll benefit from educating themselves on the ins-and-outs of their condition and treatment options, and by finding support in others who are fighting the same battles. "Doctors respect patients who take ownership of their own care, who show that they are actively engaged," says Cooper.
• Burning their bridges: Leaving a doctor's practice in anger or haste can cause ill will and prevent cooperation in the future for medical care with another provider.