There was no way for Nick to contact the person who had infected him, and who is probably infecting others. And while Nick says he's now more careful in his own sexual behavior, he says, "in all honesty, negotiating condoms with casual partners is something I'm still figuring out how to do. For that reason I've ended up toning that part of my sex life down until I can figure it out."
Nick had taken the time before this incident to find a doctor who was understanding and easy to talk to. "I searched on www.glma.org and found a gay doctor who was comfortable with gay health issues. He specializes in internal medicine and infectious disease. I did not feel embarrassed at all speaking with him. In contrast I'd had another physician who could barely ask me about oral sex without sweating, and I decided to no longer go to him."