The most common psychological reasons for disinterest in sex include:
- Cultural factors, such as the way you were raised to think about sex
- Low self-esteem
- Conflict with your partner
- A history of sexual trauma such as abuse or assault
- Stress and psychological health
A certified sex therapist can sit down with you (and your partner, if you have one) and work at finding hidden issues that may be affecting your sex drive.
"Some people have trauma they don’t even realize they’ve had," says Marjorie Green, MD, director of the Mount Auburn Female Sexual Medicine Center in Cambridge, Mass., and a clinical instructor at Harvard Medical School. "And sometimes people think that there isn’t a problem in a relationship and there is."
In addition to individual and couples counseling and any nonmedical therapeutic techniques, antidepressant medication may be prescribed. Some antidepressants may add to sex drive difficulties, so it’s important to work closely with your doctor so that the prescription can be tailored to your needs.