Simple Tips for a Happy and Successful Life

Everyday strategies to help you meet your goals for your career, family, health—you name it.


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Levi Brown
Some strategies for success have been the same since Helen of Troy rose from mere pretty face to The Face That Launched a Thousand Ships: Never give up, have oodles of confidence, appear in a reality show (oh, wait, wrong century). But in these fast-paced, high-tech, self-promotional times, there are whole new tactics for acing life.

"Women these days often juggle a lot of success goals, but research is showing that we can achieve the ones most important to us by making key changes in the way we think and act," says Carol Dweck, PhD, a professor of psychology at Stanford University and author of Mindset: The New Psychology of Success.

We spoke with top experts and pros who help people thrive in a variety of fields to gather the most simple yet effective ways to get exactly what you want.

Think big and small
Success is almost always the culmination of a series of mini successes—something that's easy to forget when you read about over-overachievers (we're talking about you, Marissa Mayer). "At work, women often measure themselves by the endpoint, rather than progress made," Dweck notes. Yet advancing yourself, whether in your career or level of fitness, is all about nailing small goals. A comprehensive California State University review of research on dietary and physical activity goals found that people were more likely to achieve specific ones—such as "walk one mile at lunch three times this week"—than grand, vague kinds like "exercise more often."

What you can do: "Create a spreadsheet of goals, note the tactics and resources that will help, and schedule check-ins with yourself," says New York City career coach Roy Cohen, who's worked with thousands of Fortune 500 execs. By all means, share your aspirations and your progress; one study found that people who did weekly email updates with friends were 33 percent more likely to score success than those who just created goals.

Put in the time
Seemingly perfect Gwyneth Paltrow reportedly had one thing to say to haters: "Everything in my life that's good is because I worked my ass off to get it and to maintain it." She's right, of course; connections and luck only get you so far. Hard work's a longtime tenet of success, though our culture doesn't always prove it. "We see the Snooki types achieve fame and fortune for doing what seems to be nothing and think, 'Why isn't someone rewarding me?'" says Scott Love, a legal search consultant who trains recruiters worldwide. While celebrities' day jobs may seem nothing like ours (nothing!), there's almost always work involved in mega-success, he continues: "Spending real time and effort makes the difference between wishing you had something and actually getting it."

What you can do: In the best seller Outliers: The Story of Success, Malcolm Gladwell talks about the "10,000-hour rule"—the amount of practice required to ace a skill. But work won't feel like a four-letter word if you're passionate about what you're doing. As for the inevitable tasks you dread, they'll be more palatable if you focus on what you'll get out of them, notes Elizabeth Lombardo, PhD, author of Your Ultimate Prescription for Happiness: "Instead of thinking, 'I have to do this because my boss told me to!' think 'If I do it, I'll look even better to my boss.'"

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