Fighting as foreplay? Surprise! Makeup sex can actually be good for your relationship.
Q: Makeup sex is some of the best action my guy and I have. But could it be bad for our relationship?
A: Makeup sex is normaland generally healthy, too. Not only can it be madly passionate, but it can also sustain intimacy during tough times. Besides, it’s natural to feel turned on after an argument. In the heat of battle, adrenaline and dopamine (your hormone of desire) levels rise, giving you that excited feeling. This rush can be a good substitute for foreplay, so you can get right to it. One caveat: If it always takes a blowout to get you two connecting, then you should seriously consider talking to a couples counselor.
Q: I’m pregnant, and the bigger I get the more I’m afraid that sex will hurt my baby. What are the safest positions?
A: You may experience some discomfort in any position, particularly during the last trimester, so be sure to let your partnerand your doctorknow if anything doesn’t feel right. But if you’re having a healthy pregnancy, it’s safe to have sex straight through (just keep in mind that in the final month semen and contractions from orgasm can sometimes induce labor).
The woman-on-top position is great, because it takes all of the pressure off your abdomen and allows you to control the speed and the depth of thrusting. Here, two other positions to try. Missionary alternative: Lay on your back at the edge of the bed, with knees bent; have your partner enter by standing or kneeling in front of you. This will keep your partner’s weight off your belly. The “C” position: Both you and your partner lie on your sides, with him behind you, facing your back. This position also keeps the weight off your belly, and it results in shallow penetration. (Deep penetration can sometimes be uncomfortable in the later stages of pregnancy.)
Q: Lately, I’ve noticed a little bleeding after sex. Should I be worried?
A: Some causes of vaginal bleeding after sexual intercourse, such as dryness due to menopause or irregular menstruation, are not serious and can be easily treated with topical hormone creams and/or contraceptives.
However, postcoital bleeding, even small amounts, can be a sign of a more serious underlying conditionlike cervicitis (inflammation of the cervix, most often caused by an infection), an STD, uterine fibroids, or cervical cancerso be sure to get checked by your gynecologist. And if you’re experiencing vaginal bleeding and pelvic pain during or after intercourse, visit your doctor ASAP: You could have pelvic inflammatory disease (PID), which can cause fertility problems and is potentially life-threatening. It is the result of an infection of one or more pelvic organs, including the uterus, cervix, and fallopian tubes. PID (generally caused by untreated gonorrhea and/or chlamydia) requires prompt treatment with antibiotics.