So how do you put more sizzle into a love connection?
Well, to really bond with your partner on an intimate level, you must do two things: be willing to discuss your sexual desires and be honest with yourself about why youre not getting what you need.
Youre right. Talking about sex can be emotionally draining. And with so many of us suffering from ‘hurried woman syndrometrying to do everything from having a career to taking care of a familyits no wonder we dont have the energy to feel sexy, talk sexy, or even complain about whats going wrong sexually. Shutting down isnt the answer, though. If you arent willing to explore your sexuality and express your desires, your relationship may eventually unravel. Why? When the sexual energy in a relationship hits low tide, couples often disconnect emotionally, even if the marriage doesnt end in divorce or isnt shattered by an illicit affair.
Let me be clear here: You cant have a candid, productive conversation about sex if you dont trust each other. Remember, sex is a very sensitive and personal issue. Blaming your partner for your dissatisfaction will quickly squash any fruitful discussion. Instead, share what you learned from this article or my book that will help you spice things up a bit. Just having the talk may spark your partners creativity and willingness to find new ways to turn you on.
Women are overly critical of themselves, especially when it comes to sex and body image. They often think things like, ‘Im not sexy enough, not pretty enough, ‘My body isnt perfect, ‘Im just no good in bed. If you want to achieve great sex, you must forget that negative script and release your ‘inner vixen, which may not be easy.
You may be surprised by this, but for many women having an orgasm isnt the key to sexual satisfaction. Sex is about pleasure, and the emotional and physical intimacy that women feel during the act of sex. By focusing on the sensations and enjoyment of the moment, sex can be wonderful even if you dont achieve an orgasm.
Thats simple: Take responsibility for your own pleasure. Learn what your body responds to and use that knowledge to guide your partner. The amount of sexual energy you devote to a relationship determines the level of passion youll experience. And sexual energy comes from connecting with your partner in a way that involves your bodies and your minds.