Q: My partner and I are both on the road a lot for work. Lately, I’ve been thinking about the old adage, “Absence makes the heart grow fonder.” If we have less sex, will we want it more?
A: Your instinct for keeping the spark alive is right on, I’m happy to report.
Resisting the urge to have sex can pay off in hotter action the next time you succumb to desire, even if it’s just your maddening travel schedules causing the resistance. And absence may even have benefits over expensive mate-wooing extras like beauty treatments or lingerie. One study shows that men who’ve spent time apart from their partners not only are more eager to get them in the sack, but find them more attractive, too. There’s also good news if you’re hoping to get pregnant after an extended run of sex-free days and nights: Your partner’s sperm count will be higher.
To tip the quality-versus-quantity ratio further in your favor, send your honey occasional lusty e-mails or text messages to get him thinking about that next encounter, however far off it may be. And when you finally do hook up, special touches like champagne and strawberries make it even more worth the wait.
Q: Is there any difference in having sex with men who are circumcised and those who aren’t?
A: First, let’s talk visual effects. If you get amorous with an uncut guy, his erection will cause the foreskin to retract, leaving his penis bareheaded in all its glory, just like circumcised ones. Once he’s inside you, you shouldn’t feel any difference.
Your partner, though, just might count himself lucky that he never got nipped. Some (but not all) studies suggest that the tip of an uncircumcised penis is more sensitive to stimulation because keeping it covered up preserves its fine texture. Regardless, that uncut foreskin can function as a sort of free sex toy during foreplay if you’re in the mood to experiment with it by pulling it up and down.
Worried about a greater risk of infection? Some research suggests that circumcision decreases a man’s chances of contracting sexually transmitted infections (and passing these along to his partners). If you’re concerned about STIs, use condoms and have a frank chat with any new partner, cut or otherwise, about your sexual histories.